Opal has died?!?

[Someone]

(The above post was aimed at coolbryne. At the silly sock thing, the last time I spent a majority of a year with my parents I was eight, I was fully independent to go missing for a few days by the age of fifteen, had my own place at sixteen and was fully at university at seventeen. Ironically since earlier this year it is about the most accurate to say I am with my parents but it is a temporary thing [caused by my consultancy crashing and burning] and by the way while I am technically mooching off them I lent them far more money when I had a job which ain't paid back yet... So by all means say I've misunderstood some real life thing which is quite commonplace for me [because of this unusual bringing up] but I ain't some overgrown baby)

[Someone]

Do you guys want me to call up Simple Linctus and ask him "WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?"

Just let me know.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Do you guys want me to call up Simple Linctus and ask him "WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?"

Just let me know.

I will call you and let you know to do so when it's acceptable to do so.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I will call you and let you know to do so when it's acceptable to do so.

I'll call you back to let you know what he said.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I will call you and let you know to do so when it's acceptable to do so.

I am calling to tell you it is an appropriate time to call Clockwork Jackal, to tell him it is an appropriate time to call Simple Linctus and demand an answer to his query.

Tripler
I love the telephone game.

[Someone]

I am drunker and endorse triperles post. Something of a cliche but I am cooking bolognese hence busyŵ

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I am drunker and endorse triperles post. Something of a cliche but I am cooking bolognese hence busyŵ

I can vouch for that, the man has NO triper.

[Someone]

Dude, put yer fu*kin' pants back on. Your're embarrassing all of us.

Tripler
I don't wanna see your apparently Polish bologna.

[Someone]

Bolognese is ready. Just cooling down and I have some drinking to be doing. But the meal will be delish

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I highly doubt that a lawyer in Arizona, no matter how skilled, will be able to successfully sue some kid in Britain over one weird phone call. That's a bit over the top.

You know, if leaving a mistake uncorrected means that something good happens, its okay to let that mistake lay there.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Ok, lawyer + calling them up to ask them if they are really the ones posting online, (With "Also by the way is your daughter really <this internet handle> and is she dead?" thrown in.) = legal action before you can blink. Do you understand?

i think this is actually more retarded than Simple Linctus's idea. i'd refrain from trying to give out life lessons.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

If Dominic's father is involved, it's no scam. If he posts about it on Fathom, I'd trust it. As far as I know he hasn't posted there since he and Opal split.

So has the father posted anything on Fathom? The only thing I saw were posts announcing the imminent demise of the boards, apparently at the behest of OpalCatMom.

Also, what is the $$$ supposed to be for, exactly? IME, people give money at funerals to help defray the funeral costs. But Dominic's not paying for it, so what gives?

[Someone]

With the Internet, it's not really hard to track down phone numbers. I was just checking something out and found a phone number for somebody related tangentially to the Opal story. I wasn't even tempted to call to verify anything even though this person could answer all the questions easily.

Maybe I'm more normal than I thought.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

So has the father posted anything on Fathom? The only thing I saw were posts announcing the imminent demise of the boards, apparently at the behest of OpalCatMom.

Also, what is the $$$ supposed to be for, exactly? IME, people give money at funerals to help defray the funeral costs. But Dominic's not paying for it, so what gives?

Don't know, he hasn't posted anything that I know of, but the Opal's mom poster said that he would. If I were tempted to send money, I'd wait for more confirmation.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Also, what is the $$$ supposed to be for, exactly? IME, people give money at funerals to help defray the funeral costs. But Dominic's not paying for it, so what gives?

Hell if I know. I didn't see anyone in any of the Opal threads ask Opal's mom where they could send money. Maybe it was in a PM, or maybe Opal's mom just assumed that Opal's fans would want to contribute something, for Dominic or for the funeral.

[Someone]

Did they take that bank info down?

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Seriously, you fucking weirdo. What is wrong with you?

How much time do you have?

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

So by all means say I've misunderstood some real life thing which is quite commonplace for me [because of this unusual bringing up] but I ain't some overgrown baby)

No, you're just a fucking lunatic who thinks tracking down message board participants' phone numbers and calling them out of the blue is acceptable behavior.

You're lucky you haven't ended up with the equivalent of a restraining order.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Did they take that bank info down?

Moved to its own thread.

[Someone]

Ah. I thought it was weird that it just disappeared; like Giraffe mentioned, it was the same info you could get off of a check. I was all kind of backwards confused when it suddenly evaporated.

[Someone]

Brian, people often want to raise a little scratch for a kid when he or she loses a parent, hoping to help out with college or whatever the kid might need. Mostly it's wanting to do SOMETHING for the kid because Lord knows they need it.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Brian, people often want to raise a little scratch for a kid when he or she loses a parent, hoping to help out with college or whatever the kid might need. Mostly it's wanting to do SOMETHING for the kid because Lord knows they need it.

A Scholarship fund would be one thing, but a general fundraiser, on the internet no less, for what? My mom died, so I got a new cellphone/laptop/car? Huh? That's completely out of any experience I've ever had. YMMV.

[Someone]

You don't have to give anything. What do you care if other people do?

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

You don't have to give anything. What do you care if other people do?

I don't, just saying that I've never heard of such a thing.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Brian, people often want to raise a little scratch for a kid when he or she loses a parent, hoping to help out with college or whatever the kid might need. Mostly it's wanting to do SOMETHING for the kid because Lord knows they need it.

Yep. It's not like he's being rewarded for his mom dying or reimbursed for anything. It's going in a trust to be there should he need it.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I don't, just saying that I've never heard of such a thing.

Have you ever had any actual real life friends?

[Someone]

It's pretty common for people to take up a collection, especially in the case of an underage kid. If the internet allows for more people to give who want to give, that's their business and I can't fault someone for trying.

I'd wait for Dan to say something on Fathom, since I'm naturally inclined to be wary first, but if he says it's legit, let the people give if they want to give. It may not be traditional, but the internet blazes new traditions every day. Like my mother says about everything modern: "if we'd had it in my day, of course we would have used it."

[Someone]

The few remaining Fathomites are copying and pasting memorable threads to their "fallout shelter" site. They have no access to the Fathom database.

http://fff.fathom.org/forums/showthr...459#post592459

Fathom is likely to close.

http://fff.fathom.org/forums/showthr...325#post592325

Kind of sad. It's like watching the last holdouts on a sinking island, facing the inevitable, packing up their belongings, and knowing they can only take a few things with them when they leave.

[Someone]

I can see people giving money to offset funeral costs, to create a scholarship for a child, or to help with household expenses for say a widow(er) who lost half of the family income.

But giving money to a soon to be 18 year old, for no apparent reason? Not buying it.

You guys go ahead, though.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I can see people giving money to offset funeral costs, to create a scholarship for a child, or to help with household expenses for say a widow(er) who lost half of the family income.

But giving money to a soon to be 18 year old, for no apparent reason? Not buying it.

You guys go ahead, though.

What the fuck is wrong with you?

[Someone]

What's wrong with you? Giving money to a 17 year old for no apparent reason is a good idea on what planet? It will be gone in a week, tops.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

What the fuck is wrong with you?

We don't have that kind of time and the Internet doesn't have that kind of storage space available.
BrianBot, your CONTRARY program seems to be stuck on a loop. Please disengage w/ humans until your program can be debugged.

[Someone]

How much did you give, Portia?

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

What's wrong with you? Giving money to a 17 year old for no apparent reason is a good idea on what planet? It will be gone in a week, tops.

Not going to waste the time.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

That's not how a trust works.

You don't know what you're talking about. A trust works however they set it up.

[Someone]

Sadly I'm with Brian on this one. Maybe it is just my little backwater burg, but I've never seen the plate passed around for one particular survivor. I've witnessed a lot of requests for donations to the deceased or families charity of choice. I even encountered one request for donations to little Timmy's college trust. Usually there is some explanation. A reason given. Shit, if he just needs scratch for some iPad apps, lawyer Grammy should be capable.

Of course my recall may be imperfect, or my little corner of the country just odd. Whichever, do as you each individually wish.

[Someone]

I've known it to happen, though it was more elaborately planned, an official "foundation" or "memorial fund" set up, etc.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

How much time do you have?

I <heart> Rigs.

[Someone]

I've seen it done as just straight donations, albeit mostly when the surviving spouse was already in financial straits.

[Someone]

I thought about whether it would be right to offer advice on saving Fathom and its content. I hate the possibility of seeing years of posts disappear into the ether. However, I decided against it; there's probably so much TMI in there about Katherine's son, and it would be better for the sake of his future privacy to see all of that go away. There's still quite a bit on the SDMB, but the less that's out there, the better.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Ok, lawyer + calling them up to ask them if they are really the ones posting online, (With "Also by the way is your daughter really <this internet handle> and is she dead?" thrown in.) = legal action before you can blink. Do you understand?

Nonsense.

[Someone]

Simple, if you wish to make a significant donation, then call to ensure that it is not a scam. If you have reason to believe it is a scam, call the authorities. If you wish to gawk, do not call, for that is too intrusive, particularly when the family is suffering from grief.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Since I'm the one who isn't afraid of using my phone is it appropriate for me to call her (Opal's mother) up and ask if the dope poster is her? (In a polite civilised and businesslike manner)

Furthermore is this something anyone wants me to do? I have no real interest in doing it but if I can help you all out by verifying the situation one way or the other I have no issue doing so.

Look, we all know you are a kind and caring individual so you should totally call and bust this scam.

Originally Posted by Someone

You don't have to give anything. What do you care if other people do?

What do you care that he cares if other people do?

Originally Posted by Someone

What the fuck is wrong with you?

What do you care what the fuck is wrong with him?

[Someone]

I helped Opal move once, and I loaned her a tie down strap. Do y'all think I should call her mom and ask if I can have it back?

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Look, we all know you are a kind and caring individual so you should totally call and bust this scam.



What do you care that he cares if other people do?

What do you care what the fuck is wrong with him?

What do you care what other people about what other people care about?

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I helped Opal move once, and I loaned her a tie down strap. Do y'all think I should call her mom and ask if I can have it back?

Opal's mom is into bondage?

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

What do you care that he cares if other people do?

What do you care that he cares that Simple Linctus cares if other people do?

Originally Posted by Someone

What do you care what the fuck is wrong with him?

What do you care that she cares what the fuck is wrong with him?

[Someone]

nm

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I've seen it done as just straight donations, albeit mostly when the surviving spouse was already in financial straits.

Yeah, this. Or when there's no surviving spouse and there are small children.

I don't understand setting up a fund "just because". Several Dopers with children have died, and at least one (Norinew) had kids who were Dopers. I'm not remembering anyone setting up a donation account for them.

[Someone]

In Opal's case, many people asked if they could give funds to Dom and so the family set up a way for them to do so. It might have been more classy to have them donate to a mental health charity or something but I don't see any begging for funds.